Counselors on the Couch
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Counselors on the Couch presents insider perspectives on a variety of topics to help individuals and couples understand how counseling, coaching, and self help can change your life. Our team and guests speak openly from personal experiences and perspectives, giving you a peak into what counselors see and know that you can use to deepen your awareness and fill your personal toolbox with the answers to your self-help questions.
Episodes
25 episodes
Broken by Betrayal 13 | A Marriage Born Again: Co-Authoring a New Love Story
Week 13 — A Marriage Born Again: Co-Authoring a New Love StoryThis video explores the threshold after betrayal trauma: what comes next? After betrayal, the old marriage cannot simply be patched and returned to what it was. The mar...
Broken by Betrayal 12 | Clearing the Path: From Survival Mode to Chosen Response
Week 12 — Clearing the Path: From Survival Mode to Chosen ResponseThis video explores how betrayal trauma trains the body and how healing helps a woman move from survival mode to chosen response. Betrayal does not only wound the h...
Broken by Betrayal 11 | Preparing for Change, Forgiveness, and a New Love Story
Week 11 — Preparing for Change: Forgiveness and the New Love StoryThis video explores forgiveness, covenant, healing timelines, and the possibility of a new love story after betrayal trauma. For many betrayed women, the word forgi...
Broken by Betrayal 10 | Preparing the Heart: When Walls of Anger Give Way to Growth
Week 10 — Preparing the Heart: When Walls of Anger Give Way to GrowthThis video explores the heart work that comes after anger and bitterness. The next step after betrayal trauma is not forced forgiveness, quick reconciliation, or...
Broken by Betrayal 09 | When Anger Becomes Bitterness
Week 9 — When Anger Becomes BitternessThis video explores anger, bitterness, and the danger of allowing betrayal trauma to become the lens through which all of life is seen. Anger after betrayal is not strange. It is not automatic...
Broken by Betrayal 08 | Triggers and Core Fears: Understanding What Drives Your Reactions
Week 8 — Triggers and Core Fears: Understanding What Drives Your ReactionsThis video explores triggers and core fears in betrayal trauma recovery. A trigger is what touches the wound. A core fear is the wound underneath.Aft...
Broken by Betrayal 07 | Boundaries Versus Control: Protecting Yourself Without Controlling Others
Week 7 — Boundaries Versus Control: Protecting Yourself Without Controlling OthersThis video explores one of the most important distinctions in betrayal trauma recovery: boundaries versus control. After betrayal, a woman needs pro...
Broken by Betrayal 06 | Safety Versus Comfort: Choosing What Heals Over What Feels Good
Week 6 — Safety Versus Comfort: Choosing What Heals Over What Feels GoodThis video explores the difference between safety and comfort in betrayal trauma recovery. After betrayal, the desire for immediate relief is powerful. The ne...
Broken by Betrayal 05 | Relational Distancing After Betrayal Trauma
Week 5 — Relational Distancing: When the Distance Begins to Swallow YouThis video explores relational distancing after betrayal trauma. When the person who once felt familiar begins to feel unsafe, the heart pulls back. The body p...
Broken by Betrayal 04 | Restoring Your Self Concept and Worth
Week 4 — Recovering Your Self-Concept and Reclaiming Your WorthThis video explores how betrayal trauma affects self-concept, identity, worth, body image, sexual confidence, spiritual peace, and a woman’s ability to trust her own j...
Broken by Betrayal 03 | Emotional Dysregulation After Betrayal Trauma
Week 3 — The Reactive Cluster: Emotional Dysregulation in Betrayal TraumaThis video explores emotional dysregulation and the reactive cluster in betrayal trauma. After betrayal, many women feel as if their emotions no longer behav...
Broken by Betrayal 02 | Unrelenting Grief in Betrayal Trauma
Week 2 — Unrelenting Grief in Betrayal TraumaThis video explores unrelenting grief in betrayal trauma, the kind of grief that does not move in a straight line or resolve simply because time has passed. Betrayal grief can rise afte...
Broken by Betrayal 01 | The Day of Discovery and the Broken Love Story
Week 1 — The Day of Discovery and the Broken Love StoryThis video introduces the Day of Discovery, the moment when betrayal trauma begins to change the way a woman sees her marriage, her husband, her memories, her future, and even...
The Struggle of Divorce: Part 12 - Authoring a New Chapter in Your Story
12. Authoring a New Chapter in Your Story: Reconciliation is one of the most misunderstood aspects of the divorce healing process. Participants will learn that reconciliation can happen even if thei...
The Struggle of Divorce: Part 11 - Do Overs: How can I avoid repeating my mistakes?
Do Overs- How can I avoid repeating my mistakes? Ready to relate-the synergy of relationships: The myth of meeting someone halfway vs a re-frame of what it means to “work” on a relationship). Basing relationships on true love...
The Struggle of Divorce: Part 10 - How to Forgive and Move On
How to Forgive and Move On. Forgiveness is necessary for you to move forward with life post-divorce. Forgiveness does not mean you are going to re-friend your spouse. But, to be truly free, you must find a way to: Forgive yourself, forgi...
The Struggle of Divorce: Part 9 - Being Alone But Not Lonely
Alone by not Lonely. Rejection and abandonment are primary feelings associated with divorce. Others might be sadness, displacement, confusion, shame, betrayal…When the chain of hurt to anger is not broken, loneliness often fills i...
The Struggle of Divorce: Part 8 - Financial Disruption in Dividing a Household
Separation and Divorce is a major predictor of financial crisis (at least in the short run). My favorite professor used to say that divorce (and particularly single parenting) was the number one predictor for poverty among women in...
The Struggle of Divorce: Part 7 - Collateral Damage & The Dividing of a Family
Collateral Damage & The Dividing of a Family. Most effected by divorce are the children of the couple. The age and developmental nature of children varies, but none are unaffected. Even older teens and adult children are ...
The Struggle of Divorce: Part 6 - Sex and Soul-ties, when Separated or Newly Single
Sex and Soul-ties, when Separated or Newly SingleIts natural to feel lonely after separation or divorce. To suddenly realize that you are now truly alone is sometimes overwhelming. The mind craves significance inside companionship. S...
The Struggle of Divorce: Part 5 Being Responsible To, not Responsible For Others
Being Responsible to, not responsible for others. Often before, during, and after divorce, the conflict drives us all into wanting to help the other person be better, to heal faster, to take on responsibility for self, to create for...
The Struggle of Divorce: Part 4 Is it a Boundary or is it Control?
Boundaries are essential to all healthy relationships. A boundary tell you where you stop, and others begin. Boundaries well enforced tell others where they must stop, so they don’t intrude on you. People with week, poor, rigid, or ...
The Struggle of Divorce: Part 3 Anger-Bitterness-Rage
Put a Stop to Depression & Aggression. Anger is an Expression of HurtAnger is an expression of hurt, which can often be fear that the hurt will continue. The tough truth is, marriage is the melding of t...
The Struggle of Divorce: Part 2 Healing is a Process
Healing the trauma of divorce begins with understanding and accepting what is happening, and then doing your best to become navigate the demands of divorce. Divorce is the tearing apart of a conjoined life, rending it, separating it, and leavin...
The Struggle of Divorce: Part 1-Making the Intolerable Tolerable
In this first episode of our 12-part series on divorce, Dr Chuck and his guest specialists discuss how to make the intolerable grief of divorce tolerable so that you can begin to get past the grief and reestablish a life. Divor...